The Vulnerability of Motherhood

May 27, 2012

After a couple of life-changing months, my view of being a mother changed forever.  I guess that having two major surgeries in two months will do that to you (adrenalectomy in November, prophylactic double mastectomy with reconstruction in December.  Honestly, if I ever again see the inside of an operating room, it will be too soon.)  Never before had I more thoroughly considered my mortality and how my – dare I say it – death would affect how my girls grew up, how they felt about themselves, how they would relate to the world, and what kind of adults they would be.

Parenting is really hard, and yes, it can be wonderful in ways that surprise you daily.  I think the thing you don’t expect with motherhood is all the ways it makes you more vulnerable than you ever could have imagined.  You have weak points and sensitivities and worries that you would have scoffed at, pre-parenthood.  Your ability to focus on yourself is permanently obliterated, and you realize on deeper levels more than ever how little control you really have in life.  The bravest of the brave, the strongest of the strong can be brought to their knees when the health or welfare of their own flesh and blood is involved.  That’s not conjecture, it’s fact.

And all this… is in the best of times.  When there’s enough food to eat, when making rent or mortgage isn’t seriously in question, when everyone is basically healthy.

What about in times of natural disasters?  Think Joplin, Missouri, Hurricane Katrina, and so many others across the United States and throughout the world.

With my health issues, I’ve been pretty self-absorbed the past few years, and it’s been a long time since I’ve thought to write here about charitable cause.  When Mom Central told me that they were promoting the partnership between Johnson & Johnson and Save the Children, I knew I had to participate.  All those things that Johnson’s Baby Cares and Save the Children are working together to do?  Makes me feel all those emotions of vulnerability and helplessness all over again.

This time, however, I can help by letting you know about what’s happening.

Helping in Time of Need

JOHNSON’S Baby, a brand of Johnson & Johnson, understands there are times when a parent can’t meet their baby’s needs.  So JOHNSON’S Baby is teaming up with Save the Children, the leading independent organization creating lasting change for children in need in the US and around the world.  JOHNSON’S Baby has committed to a multi-year, multi-million dollar contribution.  A few examples of their philanthropy at work in this effort:

  • Thousands of JOHNSON’S Baby “Care Kits” will provide moms and children with essentials after a disaster.
  • Child Friendly Spaces, a Save the Children initiative that supplies moms and children places to recover, play, and simply be a family following a disaster.  JOHNSON’S Baby funding enables this and many other programs geared toward mending families after they’ve endured disaster.
  • Johnson’s will donate an additional $50,000 to Save the Children when they achieve 500,000 views on their “Happy Mother’s Day, Mom – You’re Doing OK” video.  (pssst:  click on the link and watch it!)

Additional Information

For more details on this important effort, check out these sites:


I wrote this post while participating in a campaign by Mom Central Consulting on behalf of Johnson & Johnson and received a promotional item to thank me for my participation.


{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Sue May 28, 2012 at 7:19 am

Great post!


2 Terri May 31, 2012 at 3:03 pm

Nice of you to help out. Johnson Baby Cares sounds like a great cause!


3 Sara Broers June 26, 2012 at 5:27 pm

Johnson & Johnson does some awesome things. I am glad you are healthy and living your life!


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